Why I got a Vasectomy… at age 25.
It’s been over two years now since I decided to get my bits snipped and I’ve never looked back. A few times I have been saddened when I was told the world needs me to have kids or when a girl was not interested in me because I can’t make a baby. However in those rare moments I remember why I decided to do what I did and am quickly reassured it was the right choice for me. Today I share with you why I did what so few people of my age have dared to do in hopes of shedding light on a topic that is frequently brushed under the rug.
1. Almost every girl I’ve ever dated has suffered from depression or anxiety due to hormone imbalance from birth control. I decided I didn’t want to put anyone I love through that so I took on the role of birth control myself.
2. I think birth control is an equal responsibility of the man and woman. In my mind men and women are equal on all planes. Sure there are some big differences between our genders but one could not exist without the other and responsibility should lie equally on both genders. I can have a simple snip done or my female counter part can take a daily pill, deal with a plastic ring in her vagina, wear a patch on her butt, or any of the similar measures that exist. All of these being more time and energy consuming measures than my procedure. Also female birth control takes money and both the man and woman should equally pay that for. (For any woman wanting long-term birth control, the IUD is the best option I have found and lasts up to 12 years.)
3. I don’t support the pharmaceutical industry. Besides the negative affects many women directly suffer from birth control the world is suffering from the pharmaceutical industry. The toxins cause negative impacts in our bodies and that impact continues when it’s flushed into our water systems affecting humans, animals, and our natural environment. The health and well being of humankind should not be a profitable venture yet the pharmaceutical industry is a billion or trillion dollar industry. Priorities are often skewed when money is that big of a factor and it doesn’t seem that the true health of our citizens is the number one priority. I do think there is a place for western medicine, especially for emergencies, but as it is currently being used I choose not to support it where possible.
4. People sometimes tell me that I’m exactly the type of guy that should be having children because I can raise them to make the world a better place. My mission is exactly that, to make the earth a happier, healthier place for all of us but I don’t need my own children to do that. Instead I am dedicating my time to educating and inspiring the masses to treat each other and our earth with respect. Let’s take for example some teachers who help raise hundreds or thousands of children in their classrooms. Those teachers don’t need children of their own in order to have a positive impact because every child is their child. I feel the same way.
5. There are just a lot of other things I’d rather do than have kids. That’s a good enough reason in itself isn’t it?
6. There is no shortage of people on earth. The population is currently at 7 billion people and growing rapidly. Every second 5 people are born and only 2 people die. Our exploding population could make things a lot more challenging in the future and already seems to be. I do think raising a child is an incredibly beautiful thing and of course some people do need to have children but let’s be real, there are plenty of people doing that already.
7. I don’t want to create trash anymore. The birth control industry creates a lot of trash from the condoms and their wrappers and to the plastic packages of the pill and similar products. This stuff all ends up in landfills or worse yet on our streets and in our waterways. I’m trying to live a life free of garbage and this is one very small part of that lifestyle. There are 100’s of ways I’ve chosen to stop making trash.
8. The decision is reversible. I highly doubt I will ever get a vasectomy reversal but if I decide to, success rates say my odds of being able to conceive is at least 50% with some doctors claiming a 95% success rate.
9. My insurance covered it. But even without insurance the procedure is very affordable ranging from $300 to $900 on average. It’s a heck of a lot cheaper than raising a child or a few decades of female birth control.
10. There are alternative ways to have a child. If I ever have a child I would rather adopt and help a child that is in despair. However if I decide to have my own child there is always in utero and in vitro. As I’ve come to understand the reasons to freeze sperm have lessened because doctors can go in there with a very thin needle to pull some of your sperm out. That’s good information to have but I doubt I’ll ever take that course of action either.
11. It doesn’t affect my sex life. Well unless you take into account that it has made my sex life better. When you get a vasectomy they simply snip the vas deferens, which prevent the sperm from meeting the semen during ejaculation. The semen still makes it out and that makes up about 95% of the load. Your body still produces sperm and it is constantly reabsorbed by your body as it does not make its way out during ejaculation. The orgasm is the same and the ejaculation is the same in every way (size, color, smell, and taste). The latter two I only know from online research as I haven’t found out for myself and I’m not much into blow jobs so I don’t think any of my partners have found out either. I highly prefer sex without a condom for many reasons so for me this is a huge improvement in my sex life. Plus with no worries of an accidental baby it can be enjoyed more and with less stress.
That’s it. That’s why I got a vasectomy. I’m not telling anyone else to get a vasectomy or that it is the solution to all of our world problems. However it is an option for those who don’t want children of their own and I wanted to share my personal experience and thoughts. And obviously for those having sex with multiple partners, protection from STD’s is still utterly important. For all you concerned folk out there, you needn’t worry about me or my partners. I lead a very responsible sex life, get checked regularly, and have never had an STD. I am free of STD’s just as my mind is free from worries for the well being of my partner and I, and how my sex life is affecting the earth and everything on it.
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Addendum 09/06/2014- This blog has been extremely well received by most, especially people that know me personally. However the most frequent negativity I hear deals with STD’s and my usage of condoms as well as people thinking that I had my vasectomy so that I could have unprotected sex with many partners. I think most of the people who made comments in that realm did not thoroughly read the blog because that is discussed. However here is my response to that:
I expressed that “I highly prefer sex without a condom” but that does not mean that I won’t wear them. I do wear condoms still but more importantly I have chosen to take a pass on sex most of the time. I’ve had only a handful of partners in the last 4 years and that is because I spend my time pursuing other passions rather than sex such as my adventures and activism.
I also think that judgment and education can be used to prevent STD’s and this is equally important as wearing condoms because you can still get an STD even with the use of condoms. There are groups of people that are at higher risk of STD’s, which includes people who use needles for drugs or have compromised immune systems. Also STD’s have statistically been shown to have higher rates in certain demographics or geographical areas. I choose to abstain from sex completely in all of these areas. I am very conscious of who I choose to get intimate with. I I also do not use alcohol or drugs which are very often involved with judgement that leads to STD’s.
Consciousness, rational thinking, self control, and proper judgment are extremely important in sex and in every facet of life. I practice all of these skills and encourage you to do so as well.
I will say that I do not always use a condom and I believe that truthful and open communication goes a long way in this realm. I do recommend using condoms with new partners at least until you’ve both been checked or you’ve had truthful (as in actually truthful) open communication. Again I get checked regularly and have never had an STD. With all this being said, STD’s are not even close to the most important aspect of this article and thank you to everyone who spent their time contemplating the greater things in life than just one persons sex life.
Addendum 01/05/2015: I do want to be clear that I think raising a child is an incredibly beautiful thing and I have the utmost respect for parents who have dedicated their lives to raising great people. We need children and we need intelligent, caring children. Thank you to all who are currently or have raised these people!